Flashback #1 - The diagnosis

So here is my the start of my story.
After several years of marriage, James and I decided that it was time to start a family. So we stopped using birth control and had some fun trying. Nothing happened for a few months, and it didn't seem to bother me, I figured it would happen sometime. Work was very stressful at that time and was more of a priority. Then a friend announced her pregnancy which had happened on the first try. I realised that not being pregnant was actually becoming distressing. But we continued on trying, and found that we had lots of reasons not to focus on it (I started a contract for a different position, we went on a holiday etc). All the while it was starting to bother me more and more.
Finally in Feb. 2007 we saw our GP after nearly 18 months of trying. It was a bit frustrating because she implied that the problem was with me. We had lots of tests and saw a fertility specialist, who ran some more tests. The day after my 30th birthday we saw him again who said that James had dodgy sperm, and we would never be able to have children naturally (he then did clarify to say that our chances were 0.05%, so it could happen but not to hold our breath). He recommended IVF straight away. We headed home in a daze, and got a call from our house broker that she had found a house. We then spent several hours negotiating to buy a new house interstate as we had decided to move back to Brisbane. Talk about timing.
It wasn't until later that night that it all hit me, and I realised that our lives may never be the same again. The feelings of shock and grief were overwhelming, and very hard to describe. We weren't sick or dying, so why did I feel so bad?
We continued with the moving plans, and also made an appointment to see another FS in Brisbane. After being in our new house for one week we saw our FS who recommended a laparoscopy for me just to confirm that there were no issues, but then to go straight to IVF. The laparoscopy showed that I had mild endometriosis that shouldn't be impacting on my fertility, but was otherwise healthy. " A good pelvis" is the exact term, still not quite sure what that meant. So a few weeks later, we began our first cycle.