Mothers day

With only a few days to go until Mothers day, I have been thinking alot about what tradition our family will start. I have mixed feelings about Mothers day. As a child, I don't really remember it being a big deal. We would usually make something to give to mum, and I remember occasionally cooking her breakfast, but that is about it. I always thought she discouraged it because of the commercialisation of the day. I have since realised that she just didn't want to waste money or make a fuss. And as an adult, I have never spent a Mothers day with Mum, since she lives so far away. It's not that I don't love her, but I just didn't see what the fuss this one day was all about.
People also forget about all those for whom Mothers day is just a painful reminder of what they don't have. Not just women who are infertile, but those who have lost babies as well. My first MD was only a week after our diagnosis. I couldn't even bring myself to ring my mum that day, I was still so shocked and distressed. Even this year, I am looking at all of the marketing of happy families with lots of kids and thinking that our family won't be like that.
Another thing that annoys me about MD is the assumption that all mothers deserve to be praised. It is a sad reality that some mothers just aren't that good at being mothers. I won't go into details, but suffice to say that James' mum will only be getting a phone call this year. And that's only because she applied some emotional manipulation a few years back.
I found it interesting that the founder of the modern MD, Anna Jarvis, eventually protested against the commercialisation of MD and wished that she had never begun the holiday. I certainly don't like that aspect of it, although if James does read this, I notice that Lindt chocolates (my favourite) are on special at Coles (hint hint). But I do find it sad that we are told that if you don't buy something for your mum on this one day, then you are not a good or appreciative child. What about all the other days? Surely mum would like some appreciation then too?
Perhaps I'm being too harsh. I have a wonderful husband who makes me feel appreciated all the time. If he wasn't so good at this, I probably would look forward to the one day of the year where I could expect some treats. This year we are just going to cook a nice breakfast. I have then requested a lunch at Ikea. I have been hanging out to go shopping there, and I LOVE the meatballs. So I guess we are not "doing" anything, but I will look forward to spending it with my beautiful little girl, and I guess that is what it really is all about.